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Just wanted to say Hello! I'm sorry to hear about your friend. Unfortunately I don't have any answers or suggestions for you. I was hoping by now that the "elephant" would have left our house. It hasn't though. Even after 2 1/2 years.. Don't get me wrong we are very grateful Mark is doing so well. I think, I know, I would be absolutely devastated if Mark were to have a recurrence. I think it would almost be harder than the first time.
So...my mom had cancer 5 times. 2 of those times it was lung cancer. There was the first time and then there was the recurrence. I can't speak for her, but for me it was even harder the second time cancer happened in general because after the first time we thought "oh good - it's gone. Let's move on." The second time we thought "oh shoot - it's back. Guess we can never move on."
I think that a second cancer or a recurrence of the first cancer makes us feel even more uncertain and vulnerable. It makes us realize that we can't just "move on" when that's what we so very desperately want to do.
I got a little better at realizing that nothing in life is certain, which is hard for me because I'm kind of a control freak. I am the person who thinks that I can plan everything out so perfectly that everything will happen exactly the way I want it to. But then you realize, stuff (sometimes good, sometimes bad) will happen and you have no control over it and you will constantly have to change your plan, and that's life.
I also got a tattoo. :-) It's a symbol that means "resilience and adaptability." It's in a place where only I can see it and it reminds me that even when bad things happen, I am strong and I will find a way through it.
My mom was a good role model for this. Despite 5 bouts of cancer (4 different types), she kept working, she kept traveling, she kept going to her dinner club, she kept going to water aerobics class at the pool in the summer time. She sometimes had to scale back a bit temporarily, but I think she didn't give herself the option to do otherwise. That was how she coped with recurrences.
Good luck to your friend.
Umm...What Amy said! :) Truly, I couldn't have said it better! Especially since I too am a planner and control freak. And there is actually little to zero control here. We can try to make wise choices, do our homework, graze on wheatgrass, etc.
At the end of the day, God is in control-(for us). What I mean is, we can copy everything a long term survivor does, and have the exact same diagnosis and type of cancer, but our outcomes can be totally different.
By the way, we are actually stepping up our diet change, but we feel it's for our total health. Again, a personal decision, and my teeny tiny bit of control, or so I feel.