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Remembering my Husband
My husband passed away on Jan 20th 2011. Very aggressive Lung Cancer, we were officially diagnosed in Oct 2010.
We had a very intense 3 year soulmate lovestory journey. We both knew that we were put in each others lives for a reason, he gave me a freedom I never knew before and a chance to travel the US and I was here to walk him through his final journey. No regrets.............
I am very grateful for this forum and hospice for giving us a great ending. He was able to die at home comfortably. I was there when he took his last breath, I had just turned on his favorite music, kissed him on the head and told him I loved him. He then took his last breath.
The night before he died I put my bed next to his hospital bed and held his hand. I told him that our journey was over and that he needed to finish his journey. I would sleep a couple hours holding his hand then awake and talk with him more all through the night.
He knew I would need support and help, so he passed away 10 minutes before the Hospice nurse was due to arrive. He was making sure I was taken care of before he passed. He was just that kind of man.
We had a beautiful ending to our journey...........
Moon River ~ "Two drifters off to see the world. There's such a lot of world to see. Were after the same rainbow's end - - - waiting 'round the bend, my huckleberry friend, Moon River and me."
Tamie and Harold Baughman ...............
I have posted a lot of our pictures with our travels on facebook, if you would like to see them. The attached picture date is wrong, picture taken in Oregon in 2009
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Permalink Reply by DavidatpMOD on
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Take comfort in knowing that he is no longer suffering and is walking the streets of gold waiting for you. It's wonderful that you had the opportunity to share his last moments on this planet... Good luck, God bless and keep the faith...
David
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Dear Tammie,
I would like to express my heartfelt condolences to you for your loss. I have followed your posts for the past several months, not always responding, but always caring. I dreaded the day I would hear the news of your husband's passing, yet it was something I knew that was inevitable. I truly hope you are getting through all this and I wish for only the very best for you in your life ahead. God bless you!
Art
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Permalink Reply by TamaTam on -
Thanks for all your wonderful words, The grief process is just insane, now I am fighting the depression. So I like to come in here and feel at home somewhat.
Tamie
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Tamie,
What a beautifully written tribute to your husband. He was taking care of you until the end, waiting for hospice. He sounds like a wonderful man. I've been following your posts and you've been an inspiration to me. Your post speaks of your love for your husband, how dignified you both were at the end, what a wonderful perspective you have on things. I can only hope when the time comes and I lose my mom, that I can have just a bit of your wonderful attitude and grace.
The only grief I've really experienced in my 34 years is losing my 18 year-old cat. I know that doesn't compare to eventually losing my mom or your husband, but she was 18 and like my child as I don't have any. I, too, battled depression in my grief with her. Grief seems to be a strange thing- a rollercoaster ride. I felt I was fine right after she passed away, I think it was just exhaustion and the relief that she was no longer suffering. About 3 months after she passed, that's when the depression hit and my life just seemed so upside down. But today, almost 2 years later, I can look back on our memories and smile. I hope this doesn't seem belittling to be comparing your process to mine with my cat. I don't mean it that way at all, I just think the depression you feel is part of the process, and that you'll get through it. From your posts you seem like such a strong lady with a wonderful perspective on life. You hang in there, we're always here at LLL when you need us.
Thinking of you,
Charla
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